When new couples begin couples therapy with me, two questions tend to come up almost immediately. One is whether there will be “homework” between sessions. The other is how they’re supposed to handle communication during the days when they’re not in the room together...
As a male relationship therapist in a profession where women must make up the vast majority, heterosexual couples tell me they would like to work with me because they hope I will be better placed to understand the male perspective. When they tell me this, I have to...
Starting couples therapy can feel daunting, especially if you’re unsure what to expect or how to begin. This article explores the practical realities of taking that first step — from the moment the idea crosses your mind to what the early sessions are typically like....
When I first meet a couple in couples therapy, there’s often a lot that both partners want to get off their chests. This is especially common between couples who have got into a habit of avoiding conflict by distancing from one another, which of course means there...
It’s no surprise that affairs are a common reason why people come to couple therapy. In this article, I want to make some observations about the potential meanings of affairs. I am not of course advocating nor making excuses for an affair. An affair often happens when...
Watching children head off to university is often a mix of pride and heartache for parents. It represents a huge milestone, a sign of success in raising them to independence. At the same time, it can leave parents reeling from the sudden loss of a role that once...
