As a male relationship therapist in a profession where women must make up the vast majority, heterosexual couples tell me they would like to work with me because they hope I will be better placed to understand the male perspective. When they tell me this, I have to...
I happen to have had a number of individual clients recently who have worked with me to help them with the end of a marriage or intimate relationship. My role is typically to provide a space to process and accept their loss, whatever the circumstances, and to try to...
Writing this piece came to mind when I read an article by Amanda Guinzburg on a task she asked ChatGPT to help her with – choosing which of several pieces she had written to send as a sample to a literary agent. In the article (link below), the ‘conversation’ with...
My last blog piece (see this link) talked about how couples can navigate the path to separation, and how joint therapy, which is one of the services I offer as a relationship therapist based in Esher can help. This time I focus on the issues around co-parenting,...
As a couples therapist based in Esher, of the couples I work with state their wish to stay together and use couples therapy to build or rebuild their relationship after a difficult period or a divisive event. Others come to couples counselling with an open mind about...
In these blog posts, I usually talk about various aspects of my work as a couples and individual therapist. This one is a bit different, and a little more personal. However it’s still relevant I think, if you are considering coming for therapy. Until recently, I...
