As a couples therapist based in Esher, of the couples I work with state their wish to stay together and use couples therapy to build or rebuild their relationship after a difficult period or a divisive event. Others come to couples counselling with an open mind about...
In these blog posts, I usually talk about various aspects of my work as a couples and individual therapist. This one is a bit different, and a little more personal. However it’s still relevant I think, if you are considering coming for therapy. Until recently, I...
Over my many years of working both with couples and with individuals on relationship difficulties, a common theme in couple relationships is over-accommodation by one partner of the other, in essence being Too ‘Nice’. I am putting ‘nice’ in quotes, because that may...
I’ve been recently struck by how many of my couple clients are finding feelings of needing each other, or one needing the other more, a very tricky part of their lives. I am not sure why themes of dependency have come to my mind or indeed my clients’ minds recently. ...
Valentine’s Day naturally brings thoughts of love to the forefront. As a couples therapist, I often work with partners who are looking to rekindle their connection after years together. One helpful approach in the early stages of couples therapy is for couples to...
In this piece, I would like to talk about the practical aspects of getting started with couples therapy, from the initial thoughts you may have to the first few sessions. It may come as no surprise the reader of this piece that this time of year is typically the...
